Do or Die

YES!!! Travelling alone is indeed exciting yet dangerous especially for girls. Many of us may think those who travel alone are weird, anti-social...etc. But I bet it's the best way to discover your inner self as mentioned in the previous post.

Do or die? sounds familiar? heard it from big shots? " you either do it or die regrettably". It's a classic phrase which we will usually hear on the talk show with entrepreneurs. What makes them to be so courageous to venture into a new business ?

我们时常成为他人的奴隶。We always live under the expectation of others. Come On Guys! We are the master our destiny. We have got to make decision on our next move, not third party. Most of the time, we tend to be influenced by others. No offence, YES! we must respect the elders in a way, but not to follow their advices blindly.I am one of the luckiest kid in the world which my parents give me a total freedom to pursue my future on my own. Since young, from choosing which secondary school to enter to what course I did in college ....to the career path I would like to pursue, was given a total freedom! I live my own life not yours!

We spend 1/3 of our lifetime sleeping, only left the other 2/3 of lfetime to do whatever it is. Read a real life story, it features an old man who works as trishaw driver and yet he donates his earning to a school which accepts poor students from remote areas in China. Thus, he has been nominated as the Most Touching People in China! I was touched in a way that, though he is not earning big bucks, but in his life, he utilises his limited resources to leave an unlimited impact on the students. Students see him as hero. This simple move may sound easy to us, but how many of us could do that? He is living his dream in a simple way and yet leaves the greatest impact on the society.

Do or die ! lets do something which you have been yearning to do but afraid to do! Do it before it's too late or else you will die REGRETTABLY!!!

Yes or No

speaking about our status
what is the difference being employed and employer?
if you are employee, you work for your boss
if you are employer, you work for everyone, specifically, stakeholders
can be anybody that relates to your company
at this stage, most of us are employed
most of the great boss
who grew up in poor environment and education background
we should be smarter and easier to start a business compare to them
but what has stopped us?
motivation, vision, idea.....
what should we do
where should we start
are we able to take risk
all unanswerable questions that stop us from the start
money, are never enough
life and desires, are never enough
sometimes we have to stop and think
what do you really want
what you want to achieve
will i just end up like this. this kind of life?
i envy ah seng has the courage and will, to travel alone & he achieved it
when i 1st asking my mum whether i can travel alone for 2-3 months after completed cpa
her 1st answer is "N"
well, i believe this is not an issue if you really want something exciting & adventurous
that kind of satisfaction, is like an honor of your life
but it is risky, if you meet bad expectation from it

life is neither easy or light
you just need supports and courage to share your love with people around you

LETS TRAVEL ALONE

The title itself says all !!! Lets travel alone. I believe in law of attraction. All this while, have been imagining myself carrying a backpack, walking in a strange land. I mean, when you keep thinking something constantly and repeatedly, whether you believe it or not, that "something" will eventually appear in front of you very very very soon. Your focus point must be very strong, otherwise, you will be easily get distracted from something else.

Today, as I was driving along Jalan Duta, I saw a farang ( westerner called by Thai ) standing at the roadside with a huge backpack, asking for a free ride. I was thinking...the picture of me doing that in the future is appearing in front of me..great!

Back to focus on the road, and kept thinking and wondering when shall I embark on my next journey alone again. I am sure time will tell..but when??? I doubt I could make this in the few years to come.However, give myself a target that I would do that again before 30!!! Friends!! do encourage me to do this again and again and again :) Gonna embark a journey with no FLIGHT!and travel the less traveled like central Asia which sounds strange to us. Countris like Kazakhtan, Uzbekistan look so tempting to me.

For me, travelling alone is the best time to discover your inner self. It's like, standing at the cross junction, looking left and right, and you are just uncertain of your next destination. And there is the best time to make a smart move which could save you as much money as possible. One of the biggest task for travelling alone is money management. If you dont manage your budget well, it spoils the entire journey. Deep in my heart, I really respect those who travel without much budget. It's life, you have got to mange and control everything to make yourself situated in the best condition. I once met 2 travellers back in Siem Reap, they asked for free ride as they have been walking since 4am in the morning, with no hesitation, I welcomed them to my tuk tuk. And had a chat with them, one from Spain, and the other from Australia. To my amaze, they rather suffer walking the whole morning, just to enjoy every bits of life, following the slow pace of Siem Reap. Exploring the world with foot is a fantastic experience!

As the chinese syaing goes, 走万里路胜过读万卷书。This explains the more we explore the world, the wiser we are. I once heard a real life story, a mom wana bring her kids for a long vacation during school days. However, the kids are not allowed to take so many days of leave. and here the parents explain to the school authority " Hey, I am just bringing my kids to explore something new and different from what he could get from the book. How could you limit the kids to the knowledge of the book". It may not be the best way to go for vacation during the school days, however, it has its points. I may do that too if I were able to.

Hey friends, you may have many things to achieve in life, be it a big house, a big car...or whatever it is. Sit down and think about it. Start exploring your inner self before it's too late. Most us are working now, we may slowly slowly slowly forget what we initially want in life, what was our little dream back in childhood..due to our heavy daily worklaod.

Lets travel alone!!!!!!!!!!

Travelling Alone Part 2...

After the quick dinner ( coz of the STUPID cat ), went to a sundry shop to get some snacks, mineral waters and of course Chang & Singha Beer. Went back to wooden bungalow. It was really dark, with the sea breeze, sitting at the balcony with the dim light, reading EAT PRAY LOVE..or I shall name it as EAT PLAY LOVE instead :) and a can of beer, what a lonely but relaxing NIGHT! I wish I could be the lady in the book, going somewhere alone to search for the meaning of life. And I had a good start with this trip...more to come. For me, 人生只是一个过程，我们两手空空来到这个世界，可能在活着时装得两手满满，可是我们也将会两手空空地离开这个世界。This is something I heard from one of the artists that I respect and admire - 侯佩岑。That's why we must always live life to the FULLEST! It was really a hard time during the unemployment period ( being fooled ), however, this is the time where I get to recall the advices and all the encouragement form my beloved friends and family. My friend once said " time will make a difference. remember that everything happens for a reason and you may find solace when you look beyond the current odds ". I slowly slowly slowly understand...............
With all the stress & worries being left aside, went to bed around 9pm.zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Reading at the balcony

After 8 hours, woke up automatically, it was only 5 something in the morning. It was still dark, very quiet, only sometimes heard the stray dogs barking. Switched on the balcony light, stoning at the balcony, with the sea breeze, trees are swaying..what a wonderful morning!! It was 7am now, walked to the beach to watch sunrise. Noboday was at the beach, guessed everyone was still sleeping soundly. Sitting at the swing, watching the sun slowly slowly slowly rising and smile to the world. A great day has started! Met a lovely old couple, and greeted them. However, the stray dogs "forced" me to leave the lovely beach.

Swing


Sunrise

I walked around the inland to look for food to feed my stomach. I found the street is full of restaurants with typical "island" feel. I ordered a baguette with bacon & cheese and a cup of iced coffee. Enjoying my breakfast while looking the islanders walking here and there. Some school kids went to school. Sundry shop owners opened their shop to run the business for the day.Everyone smiles to you which brightens up the day :)


Pooh Restaurant

My Breakkie

Still unsure whether I want to go back to Hatyai today or stay here for one more night. Looking at my thai Bahts, it seems that I am not permitted to stay here for one more night. Told the resort owner that I would take the 9am boat and he arranged a long tail boat to send me to the platform. Went back to the wooden bungalow and packed everything and here concluded my 15 hours of island journey:) was a bit too short, but everything was worth it. Felt so relieved and refreshed. Next stop would be Koh Tarutao!!! anyone interested?? We can sleep in the tent on the beach there. It has a lovely beach.

Packed & Ciaoz

Bye Bye Koh Lipe


Boarded the speed boat and left KOH LIPE!!! was sitting at the back of the speedboat, my back was all wet due to the splashes and all..so syiok! Arrived Hat Yai after 4 hours ( 2hours speedboat + 2hours van ).Still have not decided if I should stay here for one more night. I walked around the town in the afternoon, was thinking, do I have to waste money on this dead town?? Quickly grab a bus ticket which departs at night. To my surprise, you can bargain the price for the bus ticket also. Was afraid kena con buying the cheap ticket. I still had another 5 hours to go. Had my lunch at chester's grill, guess is one of the fast food chain in Thai. Lepaking around...was wondering why do people say Hatyai is a shopping heaven???????? Why Why Why????

The time has come, boarded the bus and say hello to Kuala Lumpur.

Travelling Alone..

Rotting at home for quite sometime, thoughts after thoughts start appearing on my mind...and here it goes..LETS TRAVEL ALONE which I have been looking for.

This is a very random decision. I decided to go north by train but still unsure my final destination.Everything is uncertain. For me, travelling is just like LIFE, you do not know what lies ahead, whom you meet during the journey..the feeling of anticipation is GOOD!

Bought the train ticket at KL Sentral ( RM48 ).The train left at 9.15pm.Met a japanese guy in the train, he wanted to double confirm if the train goes to Hatyai.It was freezing cold at night as I was only wearing shorts, and the light was not switched off, couldnt sleep all night along.Passed by some scenic views along the way including Mr Lam's hometown...etc

Kedah Paddy Field

Arrived at Padang Besar (Malaysia-Thai border) to get through immigration and had a pack of nasi lemak while waiting for the train to Hatyai.

Padang Besar Railway Station


After another 1 hour ++, I arrived at Hatyai Station.All the travel agents approached me asking where I wana go,accomodation and stuffss..I refused to follow them. In the end, I had no choice but to ask them how to get to Koh Lipe (destination which I just decided).Was brought to a travel agent office nearby and started negotiating the fares and all. Bought a combo package of return van and speed boat.

The van was full of foreigners. I was the only Asian I guess. The language they spoke sounded strange to me, maybe from northern Europe. The journey took another 2 hour to the Pak Bara Pier, and then I had to take speed boat to Koh Lipe which took another 1hr45mins.

Pak Bara Pier

The speed boat first stopped at Koh Tarutao National Park which is something like our Marine park in Pulau Redang @ Pulau Perhentian. Koh Lipe has 3 main beaches, Pattaya Beach, a happening one,and I chose to go to Sunrise Beach which is a quieter beach. Had to pay 50Baht for the sea gypsy to bring you to the beach using their long tail boats. Met a lovely family from Spain on the boat.They offered me help to find accomodation as their friends are staying on the island itself. Being adventurous me, I decided to do it myself!!! Gonna sleep on the beach if everywhere is fully boooked as it was the PEAK season! After asking several resorts, it was either fully booked or way too expensive for my budget..Oh my gosh!!! I was self-talking to myself..no..I cannot give up, continue looking for one which suits my budget. After walking here and there like an idiot carrying a big backpack for almost 30 mins, I finally settled down at Tarutao Cabana for 600Baht per night at a wooden bungalow.

Long Tail Boats

Wooden Bungalow

After travelling for almost 20 hours, it's time to get some rest with a good shower. The room is equipped with simple amenities including a double bed, mosquito net, fan and attached bathroom. This would not be an ideal room for the holiday makers, but for me, as a budget traveller, it's absolutely worth the price. Spider wibes is everywhere, and there was a huge centipede in the bathroom.Only being afraid of stray cats and dogs, all these little insects are unable to scare me away :)


Interior View

Bathroom

Centipede

The sky was getting dark, and my stomach started complaining as it has not been fed anything after the small pack of nasi lemak in the morning. Went around to look for a restaurant. I ordered a plate of Pad Thai and a glass of watermelon juice. Felt so good with the setting, with all the wooden chairs and tables. And I found the menu was so interesting especially the last page as it explains " why our mouth is the source of problems " @ 病从口入，祸从口出. I always have the fear of dining alone at the street hawker. My "dream" came true, a cat and its baby kitten came near me, staring at me to beg for food. As usual, I stopped eating and stared at the cat as well...shu shu shu shu shu shu shu..the cat was still there...shu shu shu shu again, finally it went away.Quickly finished the Pad Thai and left this hell place!!!

Why is our mouth the source of problems??

Pad Thai

* to be continued

没有朋友的星星

没有人的街， 想带我走去什么方向， 我不敢知道
陌生的天空，要带来什么暴风大雨，我不会躲靠
这里还有属于我的地方 还是 我早已经离开
曾经你拉着我反抗的手对我说
就算世界末日来临 我还有你
痛苦是舒服的 眼泪是甜的
如今 这始终是一个笑不出来的幽默
我相信你 并不是因为你那顽固的右手
而是因为我还相信我的爱情

好男人...找不到女朋友的因素


壞男人往往臉皮厚，大膽，善於撒謊，不太受道德約束，花招詭計多，不負責任。

而這些特點恰恰擊中了女人的軟肋。

假設硬件條件相似的好男人和壞男人遇到同一個女人，壞男人的殺傷力要強出N倍。

首先，好男人的出手概率要小得多，因為好男人開始追求之前就要考慮負責任的問題，

所以不完全中意的不會去追，條件不成熟的目前不能追，對方已有男友的不能追，未來前景不看好（例：在不同城市）的不能追，限制極多。

而壞男人反正也沒打算負責任，只要對方有點姿色，或是觸手可得，一概先追了再說。

第二，好男人誠實，沒錢沒關係就實話實說，對女方的缺點也坦誠相告，往往讓女人很失望。

而壞男人隨便編兩個故事就可以顯得自己實力超群；對女人花言巧語又很容易讓她們心花怒放，認為找到了知己伯樂。

在這個浮躁的社會背景下，好男人多年的辛苦努力換來的成果多半還不如一個壞男人用3分鐘時間編出來的故事更能讓女人心動。

第三，好男人總想著尊重對方，不會找機會調戲非禮。而壞男人通過調笑，酒精，跳舞等方式隨時刺激女人的荷爾蒙，

一有機會就把對方佔為己有。女人一旦被調動起來，反而很快會愛上這個男人。壞男人一次調情的效果往往超過好男人默默的多次付出。

有些傻女人認為男人上了她就是愛上了她；更傻的女人認為一旦被男人上了，她就必須愛上這個男人。女人的本性中隱含著逆來順受的基因。

第四，好男人真心付出，把雙方的感情看得很重，心態容易不平衡，為一些小事和女友爭吵。

而壞男人心想：反正我不過是做一場遊戲，找點刺激罷了，哄哄她得了，生個什麼氣啊？心態更平和，反而顯得成熟個性好。

第五，壞男人的約會經驗通常比好男人多的多。參照第一條，壞男人一有機會就出手，即使不成功也積累了經驗，逐漸了解了女人的心理。

壞男人通過大量的實戰經驗在約會時把這些表面工作做得很好，而好男人卻懵然不知，被唰了都不明白為什麼，還以為是自己實力不夠。

第六，雙方發生爭執時，好男人自尊心，原則性強，不會輕易遷就對方，往往為些小事誰都不讓步，最後只能分手。而壞男人臉皮厚，認個錯比喝稀飯都容易，往往 輕而易舉就能哄得對方回心轉意；當然，那是在他還沒有玩膩的時候，否則即使女方讓步他也能找出藉口分手，有時候女人反而會一再讓步，徹底淪為壞男人的玩 物。

第七，好男人原則性強，循規蹈矩，往往顯得乏味。而壞男人一心追求刺激，變化多端，常常給女人以新鮮感。不知不覺中，女人就被壞男人迷惑住，控制住了。

第八，大部分女人對生活的期望值不現實（愛情小說，電影看多了的後果）。造成的後果是誠實的好男人達不到她們的期望值，只有壞男人才能編造出一個她們心目中的理想世界。

另外，對於多數女人來說，上床造成兩人關係的質變。佔有她身體的男人比起其他男人有太多的優勢（親密程度大大增強，對方無形之中多出很多操縱女方身體及行為的權力等）。

壞男人能做到的，好男人為什麼做不到呢？

對於好男人，你是他生命中的重要組成部分，他對你的過去，現在，未來都在意。

而壞男人更能容忍你的缺點，因為他只需要容忍幾天，一兩個月；而好男人卻要計劃一輩子的前景。

但是女人往往對好男人努力為她所做的事認為理所當然，不屑一顧，所以好男人要變壞，才會得到女孩子的青睞。 。 。很認同！